This post is not an opinion piece. It is a dataset.
Every chart below is sourced from peer-reviewed research, federal government surveys, or nationally representative studies with sample sizes in the thousands. CDC. US Census Bureau. American Sociological Review. Journal of Sex Research. NORC at the University of Chicago.
NOT/AVG. exists to give men clarity — not to make them angry. These numbers exist whether you look at them or not. The man who understands his environment makes better decisions in it.
That is the only reason this post exists.
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Awareness without bitterness. That is the standard. Data is not an argument. It is a map.
The percentage of men reporting no close friends has increased fivefold since 1990. Men are more isolated than any documented point in modern history.
1 in 7 men now navigates life with nobody to call. The circle you build deliberately is not optional — it is survival infrastructure.
Source: Survey Center on American Life, 2021. American Enterprise Institute.
American men are marrying at historically low rates. The decline is a 30-year structural collapse that has accelerated with each decade.
The marriage rate has been cut nearly in half since 1970. Men are not avoiding commitment — the terms have changed. The data confirms what men are feeling.
Source: CDC National Vital Statistics Reports. National Center for Health Statistics.
Most men who get divorced did not choose to end their marriage. The data on divorce initiation is one of the most important and least discussed facts in the men's space.
Most men do not leave — they are left. This is not an argument against marriage. It is an argument for vetting the right person before you commit — because the cost of getting it wrong is asymmetric.
Source: American Sociological Review. Michael Rosenfeld, Stanford University, 2015. n=2,262.
Dating apps were marketed as tools that leveled the playing field. The data tells a different story.
The average man on a dating app is not failing — he is playing a rigged game. The solution is not trying harder on the app. It is stepping off it.
Source: SwipeStats.io (n=60,000+). Business of Apps 2026. Bumble match rate data.
Before a single swipe happens, the math is already against the average man. 67 men in a room. 33 women. In the best case — 34 men leave with nothing.
Women receive 15× more matches than the average man on the same platform. The structural asymmetry is not accidental — it is the business model.
The average woman navigates genuine abundance. The average man navigates genuine scarcity. Understanding this asymmetry is not bitterness — it is orientation.
Source: SwipeStats.io 2026. The Economist "The Love Algorithm," 2019. Hinge internal data.
For the first time in documented history, women significantly outnumber men in US higher education. The gap is accelerating.
A generation of men is opting out of a system not designed for them. The downstream effect on relationship dynamics, earning potential, and male identity is only beginning to be felt.
Source: National Center for Education Statistics. US Department of Education, 2023.
The most discussed, least honestly addressed data in men's conversations — sourced directly from the CDC National Survey of Family Growth (NSFG).
Partner history is a statistically significant predictor of future relationship behavior in peer-reviewed research. This is not judgment. It is the case for vetting — which is exactly what this site is built around.
Sources: CDC NSFG 2015–2019. Superdrug Survey 2023 (n=2,000+). Journal of Sex Research 2018 (Natsal-3, n=15,000+). Infidelity study n=7,526.
The gap between father-absent and mother-absent households is one of the most significant and least discussed structural realities in American family life. US Census Bureau numbers.
1 in 4 American children is growing up without their father. 19 million children. The United States has the highest rate of children in single-parent households of any nation on earth. This is why intentional fatherhood is not optional — it is the counterweight to a structural collapse.
Sources: US Census Bureau CPS 2023. America's Families and Living Arrangements 2022. Statista 2025. N-IUSSP Global Single Parent Household Study 2025. Childstats.gov.
THE POINT OF ALL THIS
These numbers are not here to make you angry. They are not here to make you cynical. They are not here to give you an excuse to avoid relationships, avoid fatherhood, or avoid accountability.
They are here because the man who understands his environment makes better decisions in it. The man who goes into dating without knowing these numbers is navigating blind. The man who reads them and uses them as an excuse to give up has misread them entirely.
The correct response to the data is not withdrawal. It is clarity. Higher standards. Better vetting. More deliberate choices. A stronger commitment to building yourself before you invite anyone into your life.
That is what NOT/AVG. is built for. Not anger. Awareness. And from awareness — action.
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